No one can care for a baby like a mother does! And yet there are so many of us who go berserk when a new human comes in our lives. Some moms adapt to new motherhood like fish to water and some find it emotionally overwhelming feeling the blues of the new phase of becoming a mom. Some go through severe postpartum depression and some new moms overflow with love for the new life. Among all these extreme emotions and phases the baby needs care and is totally dependent on the care giver (in most cases it is the mother). Let’s not forget that the baby knows the mother through the connections formed in many ways during the 9 months of pregnancy. If you’re a mom you know your baby recognizes your voice even before he/she came in this world. In short, the ‘Mama’ is the world for them 🙂
In all the jobs we take up in our professional lives, a little bit of handholding is offered. For new moms too there are endless resources – right from friends and family members (especially your own mom) to the internet. We’re so blessed with so much information around us. Of course we have to use our filters and practice what suits us the best.
Baby Care Tips for New Moms
- Take it easy and stay calm : I didn’t and so I’d tell you to. Why? Well, worrying in any situation doesn’t help. And moreover, if you stay calm the energy you pass on to the child will be positive. This is will result in a happy mamma and a happy baby. This doesn’t mean that the baby wont cry at all. You know the baby doesn’t know a language yet. The only way a baby can show signs of hunger and nappy change or any kind if gastric pain is by crying. So chill and take it easy!
- Sleep when the baby sleeps : Again, I didn’t but I urge any new mom to do this or else you will soon end up with dark circles under your eyes. Some of us tend to catch up on house chores, laundry, groceries etc. Leave it all. Delegate. And shut your eyes when the baby sleep. Very important and for your’s and baby’s well being
- Massage the baby for the first few weeks : The skin to skin contact is great for the baby’s physical and mental growth. And seeing your own child smiling away through a massage ritual will perk up your endorphins. That’s certainly a mood lifter.
- Use diapers : I did because it makes life so much easier. If the baby gets a rash use the ointment that can heal the rash. There are many schools of thought about using cloth diapers. I’d say that initially when it all looks so hectic and you’re sleep deprived, diapers is a good solution. You can always start the cloth diapers and a new laundry cycle once you’ve become a super mom and the baby has settled in his/her sleep routine.
- Breast milk is the solution to most baby problems : Personally, I never timed my daughter’s feeds. It was completely based on demand. Now, some moms find it tiring to breastfeed. I found it extremely tiring when I had my second baby. So, the solution is to pump out milk or express it in a bottle. If you have trustworthy help then leave the bottle at home and step out to grab some favorite coffee or a walk to get some fresh air. Coming back to breast milk – Well, I’ve used it on skin rashes or redness on hands and face. It helps in healing and suits the baby’s skin.
- Make sure your baby sleeps in a separate bed within your sight. Co – sleeping is great initially but if the child gets too attached to your smell and just cannot sleep without you, you’re setting yourself up for tough nights with no space for you in the bed.
- Make a bed time routine for the baby. If done regularly, this sends out a message that it’s time to sleep. A warm water sponge, followed by some cuddling and a song/story/prayer is a short bedtime routine.
- In the first few weeks, the baby is soo soooo delicate. I wasn’t confident to carry my baby (even the second time around) to bathe her. I always had this fear of having slippery hands and thus I never bathe her all alone. Watching some videos on this subject may be helpful but it is totally up to you and how much risk you want to take. I would advise against doing this task alone. One more thing to keep in mind is that once the bath is over, make sure the fans, air conditioners in the room are turned off until you dress up the baby. This is to protect the child from catching a cold.
- Use Baby laundry soap only for washing the clothes. Anything other than this is highly likely to give the child a rash or a skin problem.
- Lastly, let the baby lead the way. Be it breastfeeding, weaning off, rash or any other situation while growing up. A well connected child will let the parent know or a well connected parent will just understand when to take what steps. Like I said in the beginning, no one can take better care of a baby than a mother.
About the author
Moina is a work-from-home mom to two girls. She loves to pen down their childhood and her motherhood musings.